I have this unwritten personal rule...if someone has lipstick on their teeth you tell them. They could be your best friend, your mum, your best friend, a shop assistant or some person on your bus....you tell them. You tell them in a non condescending way, add a 'pffft, it happens', you smile, laugh and move on.
You help your sisters out! After all, it happens! Unless you constantly, constantly check every minute you are unlikely to avoid this and will probably experience it at least once. You try a new lipstick that is sticky, you rush in the morning, you eat or drink and forget to check...it just happens. No biggie!
Lately I was in Canberra and went out to a light industrial area to check out a certain vintage store. When I was there I unknowingly had lipstick on my teeth, how dare I! When I was there I was treated terribly, they made fun of me in front of my boyfriend while I was in the dressing room, they tutted, rolled their eyes and laughed. They were middle aged women who made me feel like I wasn't part of the club, silly little girl playing with makeup. They also did not allow me to walk around with clothes because I 'might steal them'.
I love vintage and I love vintage shopping. I usually find store owners lovely and as someone who spent years in retail I try to be the best customer I can. I always try and think from the assistants perspective, but I also know that you are NEVER to be mean to your customers. It really threw me because I've always felt the vintage community was accepting, but recently I've felt that I'm just not 'cool' enough for this club.
It may seem like an overreaction to this incident, but to me telling someone they have lipstick on their teeth is like telling someone something is stuck to their shoe or have something in their hair....its common courtesy and something that is just good manners. It surprised me that adult women who were likely to have adult children were so immature.
Let's all strive to support each other and do to others what we would want to be done for us.
Have you had any bad experiences in the vintage community or in vintage stores?